When young men or women – or their parents – struggled to find a perfect shidduch, the Rebbe would gently point out where their mistake lies.
In a sharp letter to a young man involved in shidduchim, the Rebbe wrote:
“If only you would conclude, once and for all, that there is no perfection in the women’s section, just like there is none in the men’s, since only Hashem is perfect, then you would have closed on a shidduch long ago.”
A woman who was struggling to find a shidduch for her daughter shared her anxiety with the Rebbe.
“Could she identify what she is looking for?” the Rebbe inquired.
“Oh, of course,” answered the woman, and began an endless list of characteristics her daughter was seeking in her life-mate.
The Rebbe smiled softly, “It seems to me that you are describing at least three separate bochurim.”
(Igros Kodesh Vol. 15, Page 95; Seeds of Wisdom Vol. 1, page 78)
From The Weekly Farbrengen by Merkaz Anash