Newsletter Addresses Raising Good Bochurim

Discover the secrets to raising good boys with Rabbi Moshe Lieblich in the N’shei Chabad Newsletter’s Tishrei issue, and take a peek into the personal life of noted author and translator Rabbi Eli Touger.

The N’shei Chabad Newsletter’s Tishrei issue is going to print! Take a sneak peek at what’s inside:

You may recall “Hurting” – a letter writer in the Nissan 2018 issue, who was deeply distressed by an earlier article that discussed people not wanting more children because they want “more me-time, more vacations, less hectic lives…”

Hurting was struggling to put food on the table, wishing she could have more children but feeling she couldn’t. Find out how she has healed in the past two years and is “No Longer Hurting.”

Rabbi Eli Touger has never spoken about his personal life. He just writes and translates seforim all day, right? Meet the man behind our favorite books in an exclusive N’shei Chabad Newsletter interview, conducted and written by Musia Kaplan.

Discover a new take on hiddur mitzvah, which usually includes buying a beautiful esrog. Rabbi Elye Gross bought a really ugly esrog, and then the Rebbe found out about it. Rabbi Leibel Groner describes the Rebbe’s reaction:

“The Rebbe started reading, and I noticed that he was not reading it fast as he usually does, but was concentrating and reading your letter word by word, line by line. As he continued reading your letter, I saw the Rebbe’s smile grow bigger and bigger. Your letter gave the Rebbe much nachas.” What was written in it?

And now, the major question: How to raise a good bochur? Mothers – you were never a bochur so you may not realize what the challenges and solutions are. Fathers – you might mean well but you also might be barking up the wrong tree by forcing your son to do what’s right. In a landmark article in the Tishrei N’shei, mechanech Rabbi Moshe Lieblich explains bochurim to parents. Here’s an excerpt:

“Are you the person you want your child to emulate? Do you lose your temper easily? How do you behave with your family? Spouse? Neighbors? Do you look at Yiddishkeit as a burden or an honor?

“In your free time, do you take out a sefer to learn, do you talk about your love and excitement for Torah? Or are you more animated about a sports team winning a game? As much as you may tell your children that Torah is the most important thing in the world, they will learn from your conduct whether Torah is truly your priority. What excites you? When are you the most alive? Watching the presidential debates or listening to a shiur Gemara? What does your Shabbos meal look like? Is it a beautiful relaxed environment suffused with the kedushah of Shabbos? Or is it a dinner table to discuss politics (or worse) with your guests? I remember going to a shul that had a children’s program and the only ones davening were the children. But for how long? Would they still daven when they grew up, considering what they saw their fathers doing (and not doing)?

“When I first entered the world of education 15 years ago, I had an unforgettable meeting with a parent. The father was sitting in my office and complaining that his son doesn’t wake up on time for Chassidus on Shabbos morning. He tried everything, he said. He would bribe, threaten, scream and fight but the boy just slept in. I asked him, ‘What is more important to you, the relationship you have with your son or that he should wake up on Shabbos morning to learn Chassidus?’  I was stunned and dismayed when he answered that he would rather his son wake up and learn Chassidus, even if it destroyed their relationship. He tried to rationalize that if his son would learn Chassidus, he would eventually come to appreciate him and the relationship would get better…”

Read Rishe Deitsch’s update on the N’shei Chabad Newsletter’s financial situation, which was dire when COVID-19 hit and the NCN lost 75% of its advertisers in one fell swoop. All this and more in your upcoming Tishrei issue. Fill yourself up! Have what to give to others! Read the N’shei cover to cover as thousands of chassidim do!

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