A Moment with the Rebbe: In an intense yechidus, the Rebbe reminded a chosson what lay ahead for him and what he must do to make it work.
When one Lubavitcher chassan was overly engrossed in choosing an apartment and furniture, the Rebbe addressed him with this handwritten note:
“Your letter was shocking and painful, and it caused me anguish.
“With marriage, a new period in life begins. A period in which one utilizes everything that he has learned and absorbed until then. A period in which one ceases to be only a recipient of his environment and society, but begins to give back, to return a debt that he has to his parents, teachers and surroundings.
“With marriage, a person begins to prepare for the greatest responsibility: educating his children that Hashem will bless him with, whose entire responsibility is on him.
“This is in addition to the fact that one has taken responsibility of another person’s life, namely his wife.
“And despite all of the above, you have sunken into a deep slumber. You have put your conscience into a deep sleep, and together with it your spirituality and even your very personality. You are investing energy in finding a fancy apartment and furniture, as if this is the purpose of man, and how he differs from an animal. And in this way you will educate, Rachmana litzlan, your family?!”
(Kuntres Michtovim Uma’anos, Tammuz 5774)
Credit: The Weekly Farbrengen by Merkaz Anash