א׳ כסלו ה׳תשפ״ו | November 21, 2025
Find the Right Mashpia and Stick with Him
When Yossel Mochkin was told to leave yeshiva, he poured his heartbreak into a three-page letter and handed it to the Rebbe in yechidus. The Rebbe read it slowly and offered a perspective Yossel never expected
Reb Yossel Mochkin relates:
When I was an older bochur in yeshiva, I was approached by the hanhala and was told firmly that they were concerned that I was behaving inappropriately, and I should find another yeshiva. I was devastated. Besides the accusation being unfounded, I was also disturbed that a yeshiva could function like that.
I wrote to the Rebbe a three-page letter, pouring out my emotions, and I handed it to the Rebbe in yechidus. The Rebbe took the letter, read it carefully, made some marks with a pencil, and then told me this:
“The Rebbe Rashab initially designed Tomchei Temimim with two mashpiim or more, so that the various personality types amongst bochurim can connect with different mashpiim.
“You should communicate with one of them, and Hashem should help you find the right one. But don’t jump from one to another…”
The Rebbe then concluded that my job is to sit and learn Nigleh and Chassidus with hasmodo. “Put your sechel on the side, forget about your past. Since you learn in a chassidishe yeshiva, a chossid does with kabbolas ol. Your inyan is to do, and if you will do, there will be good tidings…”
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