I’ve been on both sides. I both work for a school and am a parent.

There is truth to the point that a teacher will have a valuable piece of advice to help the child.

Unfortunately, we find the opposite as well.

Let’s not forget, the teacher is an employee. Most mechanchim do not posses professional credentials when hired by the school. This leaves the mechanech feeling a lack of job security. Think about it, he/she are in a tough position. They may not be qualified for the job but the bills gotta get paid. The blame quickly shifts to the student…

In these days especially the above is true. It’s hard to find teachers. In desperation, the school hires anyone who’s willing to take on the job. Qualified or not. They need a body in the classroom!

In my child’s school, the suggestion of “your child needs professional help” is told to every 4th child! It simply can’t be that so many children are experiencing emotional/behavioral issues! What is going on?

To further the point. Tell me this. How can the same child be terrible in the morning with the limudei kodesh teacher and amazing in the afternoon with the limudei chol teacher?! I’ll tell you how. The limudei chol teacher is a qualified goiyishe teacher, who was actually trained how to control a class! Why can’t we train mechanchim?

From personal experience and from hearing many other parent’s experiences, I can tell you that many of the suggestions DO truly come from a lack of skill and experience.

I’ll give you an example. One child in our school was given a bad name. He was title a trouble maker. The rebbi gave up on him, the principal gave up on him and ultimately he was asked not to come back. He moved to a non-lubavitch main stream school. He’s doing great!! Same kid! No medical intervention! Just a school that doesn’t know what they’re doing.

Yes. Some kids may truly need outside intervention. But this article is entirely one sided. It’s defending the schools that truly do have a problem with their system. This article is shifting the blame to the parents and students. Sorry, but there are two sides to a coin.

Hatzlocho Rabbah.

I think you misunderstood the point of the article.

The point of the article is not that parents are no good. The point is that there are bad ideas about parenting that are being spread as good advice and people need to be aware of them.

It just happens to be that teachers working in a school setting are more suited to notice the failure of these ideas more than parents.

זייער גוט געזאגט

And administration needs to stay out of the way and let principals (and teachers) do their job.

In previous generations, they may have been too harsh, and they needed to balance it with more love. Today, you have parents who let their kid step all over them, say and do whatever they want, and they’re afraid to say anything! These parents need to be told that it’s okay to tell your child what to do.

You’re the parent and that’s your job. Don’t shirk the responsibility!

They are well intentioned, but they are so out of touch with reality and have no responsibility to anyone. Talk is cheap when you don’t have to deal with the fallout.