Comments on: What We Can Do

By: A mirror

A mirror — Wed, 06 Jul 2022 21:49:11 +0000

In reply to Shterna Sarah. Your comment expresses a lot of anger and frustration. It's worth asking: Do you always succeed in being mechanech your children in a Geulahdike way? Are you a perfect parent? Are morning routine, bedtime and homework always efficient, happy and loving times for everyone?

By: Shterna Sarah

Shterna Sarah — Wed, 06 Jul 2022 20:16:32 +0000

We have to stop using the Rebbe’s words to twist reality to
Ok – the parents don’t need to complain to the kids
The parents and school can and should be aligned that it’s not about it just looking normal or “having it together”
It’s seeing the child for who they are and actually give THEM what they need and get out of your own ego of how do I look to everyone else to what is the CHILD actually receiving
Foundation is internal
We know lots of things in our brain
The issue is that if we are teaching something and then a child erks the teacher and the teacher shames the kid or blames the kid and ships them off to therapy as a way to project their stuff on the sensitive kid then what is the point of all this chassidus we are quoting and no its not the kids fault or the parents’ fault
The schools got away with this for many years and now its time to face their mistakes and choose to face themselves and ask themselves who are they and is every interaction they are having with a child actually aligned with geula and moshiach
If it is missing that ingredient
What is chinuch…
Chinuch is for the child
We have geula neshamos now and we need to upgrade ourselves to allign with the power and gifts of these children
They don’t have issues
They are just revealing the issues that have already been in the system for many years…
The is a hayom yom כ”ו אייר that says that if something doesn’t reach someone is because it didn’t come from the heart
The classroom has become a place where the teacher that could “manage” the kids better is the one that is “popular” and liked
But what about all those choices that they need to make in the name of “classroom management” that are not aligned with the child
How many times it is the “kids’ fault” that the teacher got triggered so they need to “fix the kid” to “fit into the class” rather than understanding the kid and giving them more autonomy over there own learning
Keeping kids out of the decisions of their chinuch applies only if it is so aligned to the kid
But if something bothers them I believe that issue can and should be addressed and the mechanchim have the ability to face themselves…
Yes parents you have a voice and one thing you CAN DO is raise awareness and speak up because that’s what will cause change…

By: Shterna

Shterna — Wed, 06 Jul 2022 18:53:20 +0000

Its not what can we do- its who can we be
Its not about bending over backward
Its about healing our own childhood misunderstandings and choosing to upgrade the way we see people and children themselves
Automatically things will come from there
When its a higharchy and the school is “better” and can “do no wrong” and then you make it your fault the kid is being mistreated in school is very wrong

By: Sss

Sss — Wed, 06 Jul 2022 15:47:58 +0000

When we know the issue we can do something about it…
Chinuch is work from the inside

By: Aharon

Aharon — Wed, 06 Jul 2022 12:29:14 +0000

Can’t agree enough about the point Mrs Wolf makes that public criticism is undermining the mesiras nefesh of those involved in chinuch by turning mosdos chinuch into problems instead of solutions and then discouraging more people to become mechanchim. They are exasperating the problems they’re trying to fix!

By: Mendel

Mendel — Wed, 06 Jul 2022 00:30:42 +0000

Great article! Really thought out and well said!

By: A

Wed, 06 Jul 2022 00:20:41 +0000

Spot on!

Chinuch from the home cannot be underestimated.