thank you chana for this excellent wake up call and for your insightful response to Mr. facts (above). I want to take this platform to express hakores hatov to the lubavitch yeshivah of Worcester, ma. it was there that all children from all backgrounds (including children of shluchim) received chinuch with ahavas yisroel.
And yes, the cantonists were waiting outside the door….in our times known as “public schools”.

Wondering how old your kids are and where they stand in the system. There are really good kids being turned away from our schools because they aren’t “the reputation we want.” When your children, who want to be chassidishe good children, are turned away from yeshiva after yeshiva, i wonder what you’ll say then.
There’s a reason these articles need to be written and parents and hanhala members should look at this and internalize the message rather then throw it out because “it’s negative.” If we can look inside and grow from it it isn’t negative. It’s quite positive.

Then the hanhala most probably was not doing their job properly. They shouldnt be accepting everyone and then saying now watch what happens. Their job is to inspire everyone. Including the bachur who you think should be thrown out. So that their influence is the strong and leading one. Inspire the boys in yeshiva to inspire others rather then to be following the excitement of the drugs. Obviously the yeshiva left that responsibility to someone else and so yeah, unfortunately kids were the victims. If a yeshiva can’t inspire the boys on the path of our rebbeim they got in to the wrong business.

Does anyone take constant lectures from their spouse, parents or friends on how they must do so much better, as inspiration?

I think not.

Hanhollos agonize over these questions of accepting students and allowing them to stay, weighing against the risk to the other students. They often err on the side of the individual to the detriment of the others.

They can and do consult with each other and those they trust for guidance. They do not need the never ending criticism and judgment of parents.

Imagine the reverse – hanhallos posting articles on everything parents are doing wrong in the Chinuch of their children…

The answer is making sure
1. There is a type of school for every child
2. For schools to take responsibility to work together to determine which school(s) would be the right fit and make sure the option is available.

Like this weeks parsha. The job of the Shluchim was to determine how to conquer not if they could.

Schools should not reject students unless there is clear evidence they would negatively influence other students.

Schools always have excuses, but the fact is, their obligation is to serve the Jewish community, not their own narrow short-term interests.

If it seems there is not room for the student, or the student’s needs can’t be accommodated, then find some way to make room or accommodate them. When there is a will, there is a way.

There are many families going through unspeakable anguish getting rejected from numerous schools. A prominent rov even told me “Everyone goes through this.” Mass rejection has become the norm, rachmana litzlan. Some end up having to home school and even some decide to go to public school, chas v’sholom.

I witnessed in yeshivah a bochur which should have been sent out and was not, as a result pulled most of his innocent class into the streets and involved them in taking drugs etc.

You can look at it as an attack or as an inspiration to do even better which should always be accepted or at least taken into consideration 😊

It’s hard to make a school in general and one that caters to one size fits all. You are free to make it.

It’s come to the point where dealing with this constant negativity and criticism from the community is the greatest mesiras nefesh of all. Not for the faint of heart.

I think she is saying that our Rebbe believes and instructs to accept everyone, whereas some menahalim believe that their Yeshiva follows in the footsteps on the previous Rebbeim who were very selective, in our generation we need to work with every bochur though it takes mesiras nefesh this is what is demanded of our generation

Lubavitch will continue to grow and thrive, as real leaders make difficult and unpopular decisions.

#Salute our menahalim.