Aderabah! So go! My whole point was to go and find help and if you need it, don’t hold back heeling from those that need if you want one with your hashkofos- good, so find one like that there is many options. My point was don’t cancel heeling from those that need because you don’t like their hashkafos,find one you like…

When it’s an issue of “mental health” then the Torah gives permission and ability to the doctor to heal. Meaning, when it becomes a “mental health issue” then we say the same thing we say about a regular doctor that the Torah tells us to go to the doctor who will be the Shliach to bring Hashem’s healing.

A mashpia can be a very simple person who doesn’t typically think of him or herself as a professional coach of any sort. Once there is that official relationship of mashpia and mushpa, a lot of clarity starts happening as a blessing. If a frum person takes a dating coaching course and then becomes a coach, that’s a different role. If he or she is Lubavitch, he/she will know when something is a mashpia question. Mashpias and professionals know when something is a question for a Rav. Sometimes a Rav will answer a question with “That’s a question for your mashpia.” A mashpia typically is not also a dating coach and the lady Mashpias are certainly not Rabbis. Sometimes the male Mashpias are committed to the Rebbe’s ways, but don’t have smicha. Mashpias are sometimes very hard to get in touch with but will try because the mashpia/mushpa system is a directive of the Rebbe. It’s good to do things for one’s mashpia like daven on his or her behalf, contribute to whatever Tzeddukah is important to him or her etc. A professional, on the other hand, has to be paid. It’s a different role.

What makes someone a “Lubavitcher coach”? Even if they learn Chassidus, if their coaching is based on chochmas yavan, then it’s not Lubavitch. If their guidance is pure Chassidus, then they’re a mashpia, not a “coach.”

And who decides who is a worthy mashpia? There are plenty of mashpiim out there who understand people and care. The problem is that people are willing to pay $100-200 for a session with a “coach,” but would never consider paying that to a maspia since they work l’sheim Shomayim… Well, how long do you expect that to work for?

But they only deal with Halacha lmaase (which is huge) they don’t deal with mashpia/ growth/ healing questions necessarily

I have the same issue of a community Rav who doesn’t want to be bothered with many questions on Halacha. I’ve asked ask the Rav recently and had a great experience. Quick responses. Literally amazing!

It would be a great service if a list/ website could be set up with mashpiim/ mashpios who could either be spoken to for free, or booked on a regular basis for payment, with a list of what they specialize in/ relate to, and most importantly, a review list of verifiable people who can share if it helped (or not maybe lashon horah?)

I think parents is missing.