Comments on: This Yom Kippur Think About the Orphans https://anash.org/this-yom-kippur-think-about-the-orphans/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=this-yom-kippur-think-about-the-orphans News, Views, Inspiration Tue, 29 Aug 2023 04:07:09 +0000 hourly 1 By: So important!! https://anash.org/this-yom-kippur-think-about-the-orphans/#comment-26298 Tue, 29 Aug 2023 04:07:09 +0000 https://anash.org/?p=661733#comment-26298 People have no clue what orphans and widows or widowers go through.
The under the Tallis situation or buying a lulav or who to dance with on Simchas Torah are some of the questions coming soon. The av u’bonim learning or mother/daughter events can be extremely painful!
Thank you for writing this and hopefully bringing some awareness to an already painful situation. And it goes for divorced families as well. A parent can live far away. Thinking o of others in these and other challenging situations will go a long way towards bringing Moshiach!

]]> By: How true! https://anash.org/this-yom-kippur-think-about-the-orphans/#comment-26272 Sun, 27 Aug 2023 20:39:57 +0000 https://anash.org/?p=661733#comment-26272 As someone who also lost a parent at a young age, this post strikes a raw nerve. I, fortunately, have other siblings who can give be Birchas Habonim, but the amount of sensitivity that yesomim/os require can not be described.

Just as an additional point, the orphan you reach out should not be made to feel like a Nebach. I had someone (not an orphan) in Shul once offer me his Tallis (before I got married), so I wouldn’t stick out by Yizkor.

While he was surely well meaning, it only made the pain more palpable than it already was – making me realize that I really – as a younf teenager – didn’t belong in Shul for Yizkor.

I can go on forever with these examples. I point is, that if it’s done – and it should be – it should be done with some tact and Seichel, not to make it a “Mitzvah ha’bo Baveirah” (so too speak).

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