Comments on: The Most Helpful Thing You Can Do for a Simcha https://anash.org/the-most-helpful-thing-you-can-do-for-a-simcha/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=the-most-helpful-thing-you-can-do-for-a-simcha News, Views, Inspiration Sun, 09 Nov 2025 18:57:41 +0000 hourly 1 By: Mazel Tov! https://anash.org/the-most-helpful-thing-you-can-do-for-a-simcha/#comment-66879 Sun, 09 Nov 2025 17:12:24 +0000 https://anash.org/?p=993048#comment-66879 Mazel Tov on your son’s Bar Mitzvah!
May the Rebbe -as well as his parents- derive much nachas from you’re son.

]]> By: Maybe, but… https://anash.org/the-most-helpful-thing-you-can-do-for-a-simcha/#comment-66875 Fri, 07 Nov 2025 16:31:22 +0000 https://anash.org/?p=993048#comment-66875 In reply to Extravagance.

That’s a very fair point. And you are more than welcome to make a בר מצוה like that for your son when the time comes. But for someone who doesn’t feel that way, and is making a bar mitzvah like it says in this article, RSVP’s are very helpful.

]]> By: What does that have to do with anything? https://anash.org/the-most-helpful-thing-you-can-do-for-a-simcha/#comment-66873 Fri, 07 Nov 2025 15:13:33 +0000 https://anash.org/?p=993048#comment-66873 You can serve pizza and invite only family and friends. You still need to know how much pizza to order and if you will fit in your dining room.
I very much agree with this article. For some reason we have in our minds that rsvps are for fancy events, or not for family or close friends.
Why can’t you take a moment to tell your cousin you are planning to come to their son’s upshernish with your whole family? Or your friends birthday farbrengen for that matter.. Why do they need to chase you down?

]]> By: Extravagance https://anash.org/the-most-helpful-thing-you-can-do-for-a-simcha/#comment-66870 Fri, 07 Nov 2025 12:36:40 +0000 https://anash.org/?p=993048#comment-66870 A bar mitzva needs to be an eidel event in a shul or even at home, for nuclear family and friends,with a chassidishe farbrengen. absolutely no reason to spend thousands of dollars to cater an event, and definitely not for rsvp

]]> By: I'm that person that isn't rsvp'ing https://anash.org/the-most-helpful-thing-you-can-do-for-a-simcha/#comment-66868 Fri, 07 Nov 2025 09:52:28 +0000 https://anash.org/?p=993048#comment-66868 Maybe if we added an ‘unsure, remind me closer’ option it would help. I don’t want to rsvp and don’t show up or vise versa. There can be lots of valid reasons to not know if I’m able to join.
Also if it’s an out of town Simcha, it helps if you clarify on the rsvp form if there is any transportation arranged (with a time so people know if it requires taking off work). But usually that’s not decided until later, sometimes just a few days before.

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