While what you’re saying is certainly true, I believe the nuance must be emphasized more.

The difference between the avoda of men and women is not just in WHAT particular avodos they do, but also in HOW they do avodas Hashem in general.

While men are encouraged to engage in intense and rigorous avodas Hashem, a woman’s avoda is to live in the world with the goal of using it lsheim Shomayim. Women practicing men’s style avoda has led to disastrous results for themselves and their families.

That’s why it’s critical that every person have a good mashpia who knows and teaches the mesorah of chassidim for each person and stage.

BH
The general idea of Chesbon nefesh applies equally to women as to men. Some of the specific details of the chesbon nefesh will be different, for example, less emphasis on certain areas of Torah learning (like gemara let’s say) and more emphasis on creating a Chassidishe home etc.; different mitzvos to focus on improving etc. For more details a woman mashpiah should be consulted. I made the word doc version available for download so that you can change it to fit with the chesbon nefesh most appropriate to your situation.
In regards to whether in general Chassidus applies to women as much as to men, it certainly does. It may be written in the context of someone speaking to men, but the ideas of Chassidus apply equally to women and men.
This is also part of the role of the woman mashpiah for women, to show them how to practically apply Chassidus in their lives.

In general Chassidus seems to be applied in Sichos and maamarim to men- yoshvei ohel and baalei eisek.

Is there any avoda ladder for women?

This is essential!!

Well done. With great sources too.