Sadly, too many bochurim either went thru or are going thru the same thing.
Just we’re all scared to voice it.
If yeshivas were only too be on top of these things, it would change a lot.
Many bochurim are failing in yeshiva, even though they look chassidish, and everything looks good on the outside, but on the inside, they have a heavy rock weighing down. They will probably never say it, but this is true.
To all my fellow bochurim, if you are going thru this, it’s worth telling it to a mashpia, menahel, or anyone you feel connected to.
Note: It does not mean that you have to tell your parents, which would be the best thing, but most of us are scared of that. So, at least tell someone older, and you’ll see how that will help you fight it.
Personal story, I once went to a hanhala member in a yeshiva I was in, and let out everything on my mind, including me watching the worst things on the internet.
One of the things he told me, was that I shouldn’t think I’m the worst in the world just because I do this. It’s human to do it. Yes, it’s bad. But, sadly many bochurim go thru it, and come out stronger than before.
Another thing to remember: half of the problem, as the alter rebbe says in tanya, is don’t sit depressed because of something you watched or did. That will only pull you more down, and it’ll be harder to get back up. After the fact just add in good things, instead of sitting on the bad.
A friend of mine went thru the entire system and was only exposed to the shtusim in shiur daled, and his entire shlichus year was going down, until he spoke with a mashpia.
It’s worth it.
Do it for your own sake.
You know it’s wrong what you’re doing, and you for sure want to get out of it.
Let’s all stay strong thru these trying times, and welcome moshiach proudly!

You have a great light to shine and help the world around you, it’s not easy to break through the tremendous darkness around us, in the generation we live in, but it’s worth the work.

Don’t ever despair, this is the last Nissayoin before the geula, with all our Teshuva, it should be th today!

And now Im 18, it’s three years later,
I Am still in Chasidishe Yeshivos, but my life is not the same,
I may now understand the dangers of internet and movies trough my own experiences,
But these past three years Have been full of late nights, tired days, depressing thoughts, and just feeling like garbage.
I know it is now up to me to take my life into my own hands, but it is hard, just so very hard…
And now when I see mare 12-year-olds walking around with these devices
I cannot help but feel so sorry for these young lives being destroyed
One after another,
With no guidance
With no warning
And life’s biggest nightmare handed on a silver platter

I am sorry if I may have come across a bit brutal but this is all true, and if it will bring more awareness it was worth sharing my story.

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Although this mother describes the disadvantages of the “Timmkoo”, it equally applies to the hundreds of other brands with similar devices.

There are a few bochurim that agree with you, and decided to do something about it. Now, many yeshivos are using it too. They created their own phones, called Kosher V’yosher and have diffrent options depending what the yeshiva/person buying it wants. none of them have radio. you can choose to get one without video either. some yeshivos I heard they only allow talk and text, so they got it without music either, they don’t want their bochurim to sit on screens the whole day claming their using it for music. so they only allow phones that have just talk and text, and for music you can get a plain mp3 player that doesn’t have radio or videos.

The 24/6 mp3’s and mp4’s are perfect, and solve all issues. you can lock what you want your children not to play, and only download what you would like. as well as when they are connected to wifi they don’t have a browser or anything similar just their own app. Fully kosher!

It’s good you found out on time. There are way too many lost souls (obvously they are not lost, they can come back in a moment, but just for context) that if their parents would have known what their son/daughter has on their devices, they could have been saved long ago….

Yes, I know that it is true, from the side of the bochur. I see many of my friends watching movies on timkoos. This got out of hand, and BH someone voiced it. Thank you.

First of all, she can be speaking about another story.

Second, even if your sons timkoo doesn’t have a browser, I know, as a bochur that is in Yeshiva now, that timkoos give way more access to videos more than even a regular mp4!!!! Bochurim are sharing mostly good, but sometimes also the worst, videos and movies. Since timkoo has their own sharing app, that’s way better and faster than Bluetooth.

Third, even if you took off your browser, another bochur with his timkoo can send you the browser app, again, over the sharing app that timkoo has themselves.

As a bochur in Yeshiva now, I think that a timkoo is worse that a smart phone, since it seems kosher, and really is not.

I recommend all parents as the mother writes in article, to get your son another kind of device, best if it is a mp3 with no radio, video, etc.

Hatzlacha