It may be very true that at the Bar Mitzvah the classmates did absolutely nothing, however fact is the boy could not fall asleep a-day-or-two before the incident because of his classmates. and the father send him to therapy for years, to learn how to stand up for himself in the face of his peers.

The incident at the bar Mitzvah was the last straw on the camels back, whoever it was, the boy had a history with his peers.

Don’t get blinded by statements, look at the dry facts, and learn for them without getting cough up with the “children Saviors”.

The issue you mention is vital, as most bullying happens when there is no supervision, as parents we should plead from the schools there should never be a time when children are not supervised.

Despite reassurance from my son’s school, the bullying only got worse. So we changed schools.

After the first week of the new school, our son said, “Thank you for sending me to a new school. No one bullies me here.”

No one should bully him anywhere.

There needs to be a zero tolerance policy in our schools. More than that, the parents of the children need to be schooled, or we only can get so far. It’s up to the parents to hammer home the message. BULLYING is the equivalent to K*LLING ch”v.

In the merit of Mendy Bolton, we shouldn’t know of such things in the future.

As a teacher I have found that empowering the bystanders is one of the most powerful things u can do. I spoke to my class that I can see there is some bullying going on here, and if u watch and don’t say anything u are also guilty. It is our responsibility to show that in this class bullying will not be tolerated. If you see a classmate being bullied stand up for them, show them support!

This is the only thing I have found to help a little bit……
Weaken the bully from amongst their peers.

You also are teaching the classmates an important lesson for life. Don’t stand by idly while someone is getting hurt ….

The father stated that the heart condition was completely unrelated.

The child was assisted and comforted by all of his friends before the incident.

We must deal with the horrible affects of bullying without spreading false information that can harm many more people.

Imagine if you are one of those classmates who sat with the boy while he was crying after being yelled at, and tried comforting him. Next thing you know, it’s all over the news that the child’s death was triggered by you and your friends bullying, “without pointing fingers”?

Clearly you, or your spouse and children have never been bullied.

I am happy for you.

But if you are confusing “normal” conflict that comes and goes (and is to be expected) with genuine bullying, it’s not something are identifying with.

I am happy for you.

But if you are confusing “normal” conflict that comes and goes (and is to be expected) with genuine bullying, it’s not something are identifying with.

What do you say about children (boys and girls) who are repeat offenders and consistently dergai di yuren weaker kids around them.

They are known to their teachers and principals, but is anything being done??

Regardless, a huge wake up call is needed.

The writer is bringing up an vital issue and explicitly writes “without pointing fingers”, and here you are, the one pointing fingers?!

Death is a terrible, terrible thing that can break a family.

But do you know what can break an entire class, an entire school, or even an entire community? הוצאת שם רע.

Did the author investigate thoroughly to confirm that this tragic death was indeed caused by bullying and not an unrelated birth defect?

Did the author verify that the child left the bar mitzvah because he was bullied by his peers, and not because he was yelled at by a photographer?

Isn’t it necessary to conduct proper research before publicly accusing an entire class of murder right after they’ve lost a classmate?

This is something to seriously consider.

May the family be comforted, and may we suffer no more pain with the coming of Geula.

Pikuach nefesh mamosh!

It’s hard to institute a zero tolerance policy because very often children quarrel back and forth, and are friends again the next hour or day. It’s part of social growth. And very often they’re both reacting to something. Say a child ignores another one and the ignoree feels hurt. Is that bullying? When the parent follows up, it turns out their child was begging everyone for snack so that’s why she was getting the cold treatment. It’s usually not a one sided mean thing. If you seriously follow zero tolerance, you may end up expelling half the school or more. Of course if there’sa rare exception the parents should speak to the principal etc. But more effective is teaching children how to resolve conflict peacefully.

“oh, bullies are bullying other because they are hurting inside…” and other excuses that educators make for them give them a very fertile ground to operate, destroying our most inoccent souls.

I know because I am one of them.

Please let’s take a lesson from kfar Chabad! Teachers, you can make a real difference in your classroom. Don’t let the bullies abuse anyone. Zero excuses. If the bully needs help, let them get the help they need not abuse innocent children.

Children grow up watching their fathers and mothers bullying everyone they can.

What do you think happens when they get to school?

Now what is the way forward?

I beg my kids: even if you don’t bully anyone (BH!), please please never stand by when you see someone being bullied.

Someone who works in an American Mesivta just called me recently, to tell me how seriously a boy was being bullied verbally and being excluded among colleges in among boys in his class in Mesivta.

Obviously the bullies choose a soft and vulnerable target.

The solution is very simple: A ZERO TOLERANCE POLICY FOR BULLYING;

If a child bullies another child, he is sent out for 3 min. If it happens again, he’s sent out for 5 min.
If the bullying continues, then Billy is experienced from school for a day.
If it still continues, them he’s sent out for a week.
If the bullying still doesn’t stop 🛑 🛑 🛑, the bully is expelled from school for good.

A perpetrator cannot be allowed on school premises.
This is my opinion