its true that as a community we need to have our standards.
however, i think its only through positive influence, and a warm approach, that one can bring others to adhere.

Numerous events in Anash communities don’t reflect the standards of a community of Chassidim. The obvious proof is that such events would never have happened before Gimmel Tammuz.

Attributing it to ideas gotten from shlichus is judging them l’kaf zechus (rather than saying that they are trying to be worldly). I believe that they’re well meaning, but they just have no idea what a chassidishe event should look like.

This isn’t about putting anyone down, but simply about being Lubavitcher chassidim. It’s no one’s business if someone wants to be more worldly, but as a community we deserve chassidishe standards.

Who are you speaking to? A specific institution (School/Shul)? Did someone release new guidelines and allowed something you think is wrong?

Did the Rabbonim send out a psak you have issue with?

Everything you are describing is personal people making decisions, and non of those people or yourself was given the pulpit to speak for Lubavitch.

For the record, there is not even one reference to a single letter, story, maaneh etc. from any of the rabbiem, chazal, tanach, etc. mentioned here to support your opinion that you blasted off without thinking through.

You take issue with certain speakers? Give an example? Do you feel threatened that Anash (young and old) listen to shiurim from speakers who they can actually understand. These are talented individuals that explain things where even a non affiliated jew can relate to. You should be thankful!

Maybe you should start listening to some of them and your feelings will change (you will hopefully change as well).

I bless you to find your way to a more positive outlook on others and more importantly yourself.

There is a big difference between community standards and individual hashpaa.

When trying to influence an individual, the solution is of course to inspire them, not to impose more rules (although rules do play an important role in chinuch).

But as a community we should have standards of what is normal. Those who are creating community events must be aware of Anash standards and keep to them. It isn’t right for them to produce a shlichus style program for chassidim.

Its so and so many years since we dont see the rebbe, and look what the community is like.

Kids are inspired to do what the rebbe taught us, going on mivtzoim, lighting up the world.

Yes there are certain standards that have dropped, and you cant really blame them, but overall it seems that the community is going in a good direction.

However, when we want to raise standards, and add more yiras shomayim, the way of doing that is not really by making more rules…

If you want someone to act like a better yid, the way to do that is by inspiring them. Show them how its done, and by beeing a shining example, you will get more people onboard.

If everyone would feel a responsibility to set an example for his close circle, we cant know how strong of an effect this can have on the general community.

Why are you upset? All of these statements about stylistic dress are totally spurious: Blundstones are absolutely not a sign that your kids are going for the wrong reason. Likewise , I promise you that your kids still look Jewish in colored yarmulkes and sweatshirts, maybe even more brightly so. You’re picking on all the wrong stuff. Besides, a very strict dress code is not going to stop your kid from going off the derech, sorry to tell you. (A beard, yarmulke, hat and tzitsis may look weird enough to deter a non Jewish girl from chasing your son, but they won’t necessarily keep him frum.)

More importantly, having a parent that makes snide comments about other people’s sleeve lengths or other chitzoniyus is likely to deter that child from asking that parent for their help when it really matters. Don’t make this mistake. These changes are minor and kids aren’t sensitive to them. By contrast, as I said before, your kids WILL notice if you look at modern dressing Jewish kids as goyish. You’ll train them to be judgemental for the wrong reasons and to be afraid of your petty sensibilities, and once they realize how silly you were being, they’ll lose respect for more important things, chas vshalom.

We can have an objective discussion. If the points are valid, than we should take them to heart and seek to fix them. I didn’t notice him telling parents what to do, he is simply bringing them up to bring awareness to the topic.

Not everyone is willing to put their name out, but that shouldn’t stop them from raising good points.

קבל את האמת ממי שאמרו

How did we fall so low to think that true ahavas yisroel is “lowering standards”?! We are raising our standards in the mitzvah that matters most!
Seeing it through the lens of lowering standards is an infiltration from other communities that lack in ahavas yisroel.

There is a lot of standards in our own community that has gone down, starting with the dress code with the kids in our schools.
There was once an op-head posted with the title along the lines that if you kid is leaving the house to go to Simchas Beis Hashoava with blundstones and a hoodie then you know he or she is going for the wrong reason, and this is very much true! (which that itself is an issue that boys and girls are dressing the same, and you can’t imagine what it’s going to lead to) Not even mentioning the girls schools and the dress codes they allow (the skirt size and elbow length…) which that is very clearly stated in Shulchan Aruch what the standards are, which the schools don’t seem to enforce, but the boys schools have also dropped their standards on dress codes.
When I was a kid in school in crown heights (which wasn’t so long ago) coming to school with a colored Yamulka, sweatshirt even without something on it (sometimes these days boys aren’t even wearing a shirt under), sweatpants and the shoes that you see kids wearing was unheard of and school would enforce that.
I think these the schools administrations and board members are afraid of parents, or they themselves have their kids dressed in these Goyishe ways.
I think it’s time for the Rabbonim, community leaders, and Mechanchim to step up and not be bullied by what big donors or board members are gonna say, you job is to make the right decision regardless of what’s going on around you!
It’s time to enforce the dress code! Once your lenient on something’s then it’s like a spiral staircase with the dress code with wearing Tzitzis changing Chas Vesholom….
MECHANCHIM, RABBONIM, COMMUNITY LEADERS STEP UP!!!

It hasn’t only affected shluchim, but it’s spread to Anash communities all over.

A bit part of the problem today is the internet since whatever a shliach does in his town is seen everywhere. And people think that’s the Lubavitch standard.

The only solution is awareness with articles such as these. Thank you for posting!